Virtual DBT
Skills Group
A room where nothing about you needs explaining, and real tools for your emotions and relationships, not just more insight.
Apply nowA quick, honest note before you scroll.
This isn’t a numbers game for me. I’ve run this group before, and I’m running it again with one goal, which is getting the right people in the room. Right for what the group actually is, and right for how the group feels together.
Six people or fifteen, the work is the same. The free call and the application are simply how we both figure out whether this is a fit, with no pressure in either direction. If either of us decides it isn’t the best fit, I’ll help point you in a direction that better supports where you’re at right now.
Now enrolling its second cohort.
DBT is a practical, research-backed set of skills for handling big emotions and hard moments without making things worse: noticing what you feel, getting through distress, shifting what hijacks your day, and communicating and repairing in your relationships.
It’s all taught through queer and non-monogamous examples, in a room where those identities are simply assumed, so you learn instead of explain. Skills and practice, not processing. Individual therapy isn’t required to join.
Mindfulness
Noticing what’s happening without immediately reacting or getting pulled into the story.
Distress Tolerance
Getting through intense moments without making things worse, especially when something can’t be fixed right now.
Emotion Regulation
Understanding your emotions and responding in ways that match your values rather than your impulses.
Interpersonal Effectiveness
Asking for what you need, setting boundaries, and repairing conflict without over-explaining or collapsing.
A DBT skills group is structured, educational, and focused on learning and practicing evidence-based skills over time. The skills are standard DBT. The difference is the lens.
Everything is taught and practiced through queer and non-monogamous examples, and those identities are the norm in the room. Jealousy, comparison, multiple attachments, overlapping agreements, chosen family, coming out, and repair across more than one relationship are not the odd one out here. Your facilitator is queer and non-monogamous too, so no explaining or defending your identity or structure is needed.
This is not a support group, not a processing group, and not a comprehensive DBT program. It is skills-focused, structured, and intentional.
- You’re queer and/or non-monogamous
- Your emotions run the show more than you’d like
- You want to regulate, tolerate distress, and communicate without shutting down or blowing up
- You want practical skills you can use across your whole life, not just your relationships
- You’re in crisis or need a higher level of care right now
- You’re looking for a processing or support group, or a drop-in
- You want an education group about non-monogamy or queer identity
- Your main goal is to change a partner’s behavior
Each 90-minute session follows a consistent rhythm so learning can build over time:
- Brief check-in and mindfulness exercise
- Homework review, hearing how different people used the skill from the week before
- Teaching a new DBT skill
- In-session practice, sometimes skipped depending on time
- Homework for the week
Practice may include guided exercises, role-plays, reflection prompts, or applying a skill to something real in your life. You are never required to share personal details you don’t want to share.
- Emotions feel less like they’re running the show, and more like information you can work with
- You can sit in an intense moment without doing the thing that makes it worse
- You can name what you’re feeling instead of just feeling flooded by it
- You can ask for what you need plainly, instead of hinting and hoping they guess
- Lower baseline anxiety and fewer depressive symptoms over the run of the group
- Less overall psychological distress week to week
- A stronger sense that you can handle what your life actually brings you
Sliding scale for the full 20 weeks, with real room to make it work for you.
Payment plans available.
Payment plans, monthly superbills, and some insurance spots available.
If you’re on the fence about cost or about whether the group is right for you, that’s what the free call is for.
No. All skills are taught from the ground up, with time for practice, repetition, and integration.
It’s a skills-based therapy group. Structured, educational, and practice-focused rather than open-ended or process-based. Support happens naturally, but the focus is learning and using DBT skills.
Yes. The lens is queer and non-monogamous, which means the examples and assumptions in the room reflect a wider range of experience than a standard group. If you’re queer, you belong here.
No. The examples often come from queer and non-monogamous dynamics, but the skills apply across friendships, family, work, parenting, and your own self-talk.
Each person applies and is screened individually. Partners may both apply, but acceptance is decided separately, and there’s no guarantee both will be offered a spot.
I’ll let you know after your application or screening call, directly and kindly, and point you toward other options or referrals where I can.
I’m legally and ethically required to maintain confidentiality. Group members agree to keep what’s shared private, but I can’t fully guarantee that on their behalf. This is covered in detail in the informed consent.
No. You don’t need to be out anywhere in your life to be here. The room assumes queer and non-monogamous experience so you don’t have to explain the basics, but how much you share about your own life is always yours to decide. Everyone agrees to confidentiality, and what’s said in the group stays in the group.
Life happens, and an occasional miss is understandable. This is a closed 20-week group and the skills build week to week, so I ask you to protect your Tuesdays and come as consistently as you can. When you do miss, I’ll make sure you have the handouts and know what we covered. If you already know you’ll miss a big stretch, this may not be the right round, and we can talk that through on the call.
This is a firm 20-week commitment. If you withdraw early, you’re responsible for the remaining balance of your payment plan. If it’s for clinical reasons, we’ll talk through options case by case.
Sliding scale from $125 to $195 per session, with payment options. Insurance may be accepted for some participants, and monthly superbills are available for out-of-network reimbursement.
Ready to build your toolkit?
Applications are open now. I read every one, and if it looks like a good fit we’ll set up a free 20-minute call.
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