By Emerson Karsh-Lombardo

How to Find the Right Sex Toy for You? It can be confusing because there are all kinds of ways a sex-toy can provide pleasure! 

A toy without mechanical elements may be used for internal and external stimulation, such as a dildo or anal beads. Sometimes, the placement of certain items can assist or enhance an experience, like an anal plug or cock-ring. Finally, the sex toy’s movement or action can create a pleasurable sensation for the body, such as a rabbit or thrusting vibrator.

When searching for “the right sex toy,” it’s vital to determine what kind of sensation you enjoy. 

If you’ve decided that you’d like to explore vibrational toys, there’s another set of sensations to consider before you buy: What kind of vibration works for you! 

Common information you may come across when looking to purchase a vibrational toy is what kinds of intensity settings the toy has and what patterns those vibrations come in. 

However, another important consideration is what kind of vibration the toy provides. 

The two most common terms used by the sexuality community for the different types of vibrations that lie at each end of the quality spectrum are “buzzy” and “rumbly,” but what’s the difference, and why are they important? 

“Vibrations are mechanical oscillations. They can be described by frequency, amplitude, phase, and shape,” according to an article called The Physics of Vibration

The fact-sheet, Vibration-Introduction, explains that a vibrating object is measured by its frequency and amplitude. Then, that determines how the vibration affects the air around it or items it’s touching, in this case, a body! 

What is Amplitude?

The amplitude is the measurement of the distance between the objects’ stationary position and furthest position on either side of the vibration. It’s similar to the radius measurement of a circle versus the diameter. 

Frequency in “the Right Sex Toy”

The frequency is the measurement of how many times the object can complete one entire cycle of movement starting at its stationary position, moving to the most extreme place on one side of the vibrations, back to stationary, to the other side of the vibration, back to stationary; Referred to as hertz.

These measurements can help explain the buzzy and rumbly sensations often described on sex toy packaging. 

High frequency (hertz in the thousands) and short amplitude vibrations create a buzzy sensation, while low frequency (hertz in the low hundreds) and longer amplitude vibrations create a rumbly sensation. 

You can read a post about this topic on Rachel’s Instagram by clicking here.

So, how do you know which is right for you? 


A toy with rumbly vibrations penetrates deeper into the body because the waves created by the vibrations are larger and, therefore, greater affect the space around it. 

Clitoris-owning individuals may find this type of vibration enjoyable. When applied to the clitoral head, the movement vibrates more of the clitoris than just the head — creating a deeper sensation and orgasm.   


For anyone who likes a lighter, tickling sensation or more surface-level feeling orgasm, a buzzy vibration may be a good pick. The waves of the vibrations are smaller and less affecting to the internal body. 

In the end, listening, exploring, and playing in your solo and partnered sexual practices can help you determine which sensation you may enjoy most. Then, you can use that information to search for when planning your sex-toy purchase. Hopefully this gave you lots of info on how to find the right sex toy for you.

Ultimately, whichever sensation gives you the most pleasure is the one that’s right for you!