Honest, inclusive, evidence-based conversations about sex and sexuality. These posts break down common myths, expand your understanding of pleasure, and offer skills you can use to deepen sexual connection with yourself and your partner(s). Expect practical guidance, clarity, and zero shame.
Most of the questions I get about anal play for beginners start with some version of “is this normal, and where do I even begin?” The first part is easy. Yes, more normal than the cultural conversation suggests. The second part takes a little more time, which is part of why I wrote this. A…
Table of Contents What is good sex? If you asked ten people, you’d probably get ten different answers, and most of them would miss the mark. Almost everything we’ve been taught about what “good sex” means comes from movies and porn that have nothing to do with how real humans actually connect. Here’s what I…
Why Valentine’s Day Can Feel So Loaded Valentine’s Day intimacy ideas are everywhere this time of year, yet many people feel more pressure than connection when the holiday approaches. That pressure usually comes from a mix of cultural scripts, relational expectations, and personal narratives and history that converge on one date and ask you to…
If touch or pleasure have ever felt complicated, inconsistent, or even unavailable, especially after stress, trauma, parenting, illness, or disconnection, you’re not alone. Introducing the pleasure ladder. Many people think of pleasure as a binary experience: either you want it or you don’t. But pleasure isn’t a switch; it’s a relationship, and one that shifts…
A beginner’s guide to finding your voice in the bedroom. Let’s walk through how to approach dirty talk when you feel awkward, step by step. There’s a moment many of us have had: You’re feeling turned on, the vibe is right, you want to say something sexy… but your brain freezes. You second-guess every word,…
In the age of self-awareness and self-care, there’s been a growing acceptance and embrace of our sexuality. One of the manifestations of this movement is the increasing popularity of sex toys and the awareness of the positive impact of sex toys on our lives. Despite them being used for centuries across different cultures, only recently…
Condoms. Love them or hate them, they serve a beautiful purpose in this world. And let me tell you, NOT ALL CONDOMS ARE CREATED EQUALLY. That’s why I want to share my favorite condoms with you. The material of the condom, the lubricant on the condom, if there is spermicide or not, the quality of the…
Sex toys don’t clean themselves. I know, shocking. But some of my favorite sex toy cleaners do. But seriously, whether you’re using a toy completely externally, internally, or in some other way, it needs to be cleaned before and after you use it. I want to share with you my favorite toy cleaners that I’ve used,…
BDSM is so prevalent in our culture, yet it’s still considered to be “alternative” or a kink. Think of all the ways it shows up – Rihanna’s S&M music video, 50 Shades of Grey… It’s everywhere! And yet, it’s still misunderstood and misinterpreted by the general population. So lame. But most things about sex are…
We’re so excited to share Future Method with you. Not only do they sell incredible, much-needed products, but they also have a fantastic mission. We had the pleasure of speaking with the founder of Future Method, Dr. Evan Goldstein. We learned about his passion and why he started this business. Just like many people in…