This blog by Rachel Wright, MA, LMFT, offers learning, reflection, and real talk about sex, relationships, and mental health. As a licensed psychotherapist and sex educator, Rachel combines psychology, lived experience, and practical tools. This helps you understand yourself and the people you love.
You’ll explore everything from dating, attachment theory, and non-monogamy to sexual health, anxiety, and self-care. Each post builds on the last, helping you connect ideas across psychology and daily life. You’ll read personal essays, deep dives into therapy and mental health, and articles that challenge outdated beliefs. These focus on love and wellness. In addition, the blog covers communication, emotional regulation, boundaries, identity, and connection. It also includes honest discussions about evolving ways we create intimacy in modern life.
Beyond Rachel’s writing, guest contributors, like educators, clinicians, and creators, bring fresh insight to complex topics. Some share product reviews that help you navigate the sex-ed world with confidence. Others offer grounded reflections on growth, healing, and self-compassion. As a result, every piece feels practical, affirming, and stigma-free. Ultimately, this blog invites you to learn, reflect, and reconnect with yourself, your partners, and your world.
LATEST BLOG POSTS:
- Polyamory vs Open Relationship vs Swinging: A Therapist’s Guide to the Difference
Sometimes I loooove words, and other times they drive me absolutely insane. The number of times I’ve been asked, “What’s the actual difference… - Jealousy in Open Relationships: A Therapist’s Practical Guide
Yep. There is, in fact, jealousy in open relationships. There’s jealousy in many different types of relationships — familial, professional, platonic. Jealousy is… - Anal Play for Beginners: A Sex Therapist’s Guide to Starting Slow
Most of the questions I get about anal play for beginners start with some version of “is this normal, and where do I… - What Is Good Sex? (It’s Probably Not What You Think)
Table of Contents What is good sex? If you asked ten people, you’d probably get ten different answers, and most of them would… - How to Know If Your Therapist Is a Good Fit (From a Therapist)
Table of Contents “Is my therapist a good fit?” is one of the most common questions I get, and it’s also one of… - Coming Out as Polyamorous: How to Tell Friends and Family You’re Non-Monogamous
Table of Contents “How do I tell my parents I’m polyamorous?” is one of the questions I hear most often from non-monogamous clients,… - What Is Emotional Labor in Relationships?
Table of Contents “Emotional labor” is one of those terms that gets used constantly but rarely gets explained well. It shows up in… - How to Make a Mono/Poly Relationship Work (Without Losing Yourself or Each Other)
Table of Contents You love your partner. Your partner loves you. But one of you wants non-monogamy and the other doesn’t. And now… - What Your Conflict Style in Relationships Is Actually Protecting You From
The way you handle conflict didn’t come from nowhere. Your conflict style in relationships has an origin. Whether you shut down, explode, people-please,… - Valentine’s Day Intimacy Ideas: A Therapist’s Guide for Every Kind of Relationship
Why Valentine’s Day Can Feel So Loaded Valentine’s Day intimacy ideas are everywhere this time of year, yet many people feel more pressure… - The Cowgirl Rodeo Rider Premium Review: Thrusting Meets Tapping
The Cowgirl Rodeo Rider Premium Sex Machine is marketed as a ride-on toy that combines thrusting and clitoral tapping. But, just that.. It’s… - Creating Relationship Agreements 101: How to Get Clear, Connected, and Collaborative
Most relationships run on autopilot. We assume we’re on the same page – about sex, texting exes, how often we talk during the… - Hands-Free Grinding with The Cowgirl Rodeo Rumbler: My Honest Review
If you’ve ever been curious about a hands-free grinding toy and want to try something new, check out this blog. In The Cowgirl… - What Repair After a Fight Actually Looks Like (Yes, With Scripts)
Most of us were never taught how to repair after a fight. We were taught how to win, how to be right, how… - The Cowgirl Premium Saddle Sex Machine Review
If you’ve been shopping in the luxury sex toy space, you’ve likely heard of the Cowgirl Premium Sex Machine. In this post, The… - Is It a Relationship Deal Breaker or Something We Can Work On?
One of the hardest things to sit with in any long-term relationship is the question: Is this a relationship deal breaker or something… - What Is the Pleasure Ladder? A Trauma-Informed Framework for Reconnecting with Touch
If touch or pleasure have ever felt complicated, inconsistent, or even unavailable, especially after stress, trauma, parenting, illness, or disconnection, you’re not alone…. - What Monogamous Couples Can Learn From Non-Monogamy
What can monogamous couples learn from non-monogamy? Well, monogamy is often treated as the default. It is rarely questioned, rarely discussed, and rarely… - What We Really Mean When We Talk About Emotional Regulation
“Regulate your emotions,” or “Regulate your nervous system.” If you’ve spent even 10 minutes online in the past year, you’ve probably seen this… - How to Talk Dirty When You Feel Awkward
A beginner’s guide to finding your voice in the bedroom. Let’s walk through how to approach dirty talk when you feel awkward, step… - Burnout or Depression? How to Tell the Difference (and Why It Matters)
You’re exhausted. Everything feels like too much. Your brain won’t focus. You’re snapping at the people you love. You might wonder: Is this… - How to Break Up With Your Therapist (Kindly + Clearly)
Therapy can be one of the most meaningful investments you make in yourself. But what happens when it’s time to move on? If… - LELO MIA™ 3 Review
The following is a sex toy review all about the LELO MIA™ 3 from Rachel Wright. The LELO MIA™ 3 is a new… - The Cowgirl Cone: A Rideable Revolution in Pleasure – A Review
There are a lot of sex toys out there. Vibrators. Dildos. Wands. Air pulsers. But occasionally, something new comes along that makes you… - LELO ENIGMA™ Double Sonic Review
The following is a sex toy review all about the LELO ENIGMA™ Double Sonic from Rachel Wright. The LELO ENIGMA™ Double Sonic is… - Attachment Styles Aren’t Life Sentences — Here’s the Truth
If you’ve spent any time in the self-development or pop psychology world lately, you’ve probably heard about attachment styles. They’re everywhere: TikTok, relationship… - LELO HUGO 2 Sex Toy Review
The following is a sex toy review all about the LELO Hugo 2 (with remote). The LELO Hugo is a remote or app-controlled… - Hankey’s Toys Sex Toy Review
The following is a sex toy review of 4 of the wild products from Hankey’s Toys. Their website says: “Hankey’s Toys are handmade… - Womanizer Next Sex Toy Review
The following is a sex toy review all about the Womanizer Next. The Womanizer Next is Womanizer’s new premium flagship product. It’s luxurious… - The Positive Impact of Sex Toys on Various Aspects of Life
In the age of self-awareness and self-care, there’s been a growing acceptance and embrace of our sexuality. One of the manifestations of this… - Intimate Wellness: The Interwoven Paths of Sexual and Mental Health
Today, let’s delve into an integral aspect of our overall well-being that sometimes gets brushed under the rug – sexual health. We often… - Lelo SONA 2 Travel Review
The Lelo SONA 2 Travel blew my mind. You probably know by now that one of the perks of my job is testing… - EMDR: Why Top-Performing Business Leaders and Sports Professionals Utilize This
Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) therapy, among many other things, helps high-level athletes and executives break past performance blocks and unlock their… - I’m a Sex Therapist & Educator, and These Are My Favorite Condoms
Condoms. Love them or hate them, they serve a beautiful purpose in this world. And let me tell you, NOT ALL CONDOMS ARE CREATED… - My 6 Favorite Sex Toy Cleaners
Sex toys don’t clean themselves. I know, shocking. But some of my favorite sex toy cleaners do. But seriously, whether you’re using a toy… - The BDSM Basics: A Beginner’s Guide
BDSM is so prevalent in our culture, yet it’s still considered to be “alternative” or a kink. Think of all the ways it… - The Velvet Thruster Prime (Customizable Thrusting Dildo) Review
This is the most unique sex toy I’ve ever reviewed because it’s entirely customizable with different shapes, sizes, and colors you can mix and match… - L’Acier Capo Review
L’Acier Capo is the world’s first vibrating stainless steel dildo. Yep, the FIRST. L’Acier is a company under the Velvet umbrella, a new… - LELO IDA™ Wave Dual Vibrator Review
There are so so so so so many sexual wellness and sex toy companies out there. Some are better than others (better is… - NuSensuelle Alluvion XLR8 Wand Review
I love wands, so I was thrilled when NuSensuelle asked me to review their Alluvion XLR8 Wand. If you haven’t heard of this… - #LubeLife – A Company Promoting ‘Limitless Sexual Adventure’
If you’ve been following me for long enough, you know how vital lube is. Regardless of age, sexual experience, hormonal makeup, or gender,… - Zumio: A New “Twist” On The Classic Vibrator
I’m so excited to share today’s product review with you because these products aren’t your average, run-of-the-mill sexual wellness toys. Meet Zumio! A… - How Future Method Came To Be (And Why We Love Them)
We’re so excited to share Future Method with you. Not only do they sell incredible, much-needed products, but they also have a fantastic… - Bawdy BLOW CBD Oral Lube Review
Watch my 1 minute review of Bawdy BLOW CBD Oral Lube here. I am really excited to introduce you to something that I… - System Jo: How This Lube Company Is Paving the Way for the Sexual Wellness Industry
Meet System Jo, a sexual wellness company making major moves in the industry. The journey of any sexual wellness company is likely complicated… - A Sex Machine Comparison & Review: Sybian vs. Motorbunny Original vs. Buck vs. Cowgirl
I don’t know about you, but sex machines always intimidated me. In addition to seeming incredibly performative, I associated sex machines with people… - Vulva-Owner Woes: Postpartum, Menopause, & All the In-Betweens
Alright, listen up, vulva owners, yes, we’re talking about vulva-owner woes — if you are postpartum, menopausal, menstruating, prone to yeast infections, pregnant,… - The One Probably Doesn’t Exist
by JR Stubblefield Ah, The One. You know who I’m talking about. Your soulmate. Your better half. Your good time, dandy. The missing… - Your Sensual Self-Care Guide for Surviving the Holidays
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by Emerson Karsh-Lombardo Why are queer spaces on college campuses important? Well, the first time I felt completely comfortable being myself was at… - 5 Things You Need To Know If Your Partner Has Anxiety
Anxiety affects quite a few humans on this planet. More & more people are affected as we’re learning with all the furthering research… - How To Have A Healthy Breakup That’s Actually Beneficial
Breakups are the fucking worst— let’s just call them what they are. They’re often hard, confusing, messy, and painful. While simultaneously, they’re completely… - How to Have a Simple, Healthy & Meaningful Masturbation Practice
This post is proudly sponsored by our friends at The Knude Society Sometimes, I’m assuming for a lot of people (myself included), masturbation… - A Beginners Guide to Understanding Anxiety
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The world of vibrators is colorful, expansive, diverse, and can be overwhelming for first-time buyers! This article will teach you how to pick… - Sex Drive 101: Understanding Your Libido, Sexual Brakes, & Accelerators
It’s time to break the sex drive myth. We’re going to get into what really goes into our libidos. We’ll discuss how they… - Sex History: Sexuality & The Rise of Sex Products
Let’s talk about sex, baby, let’s talk about history! We know how our current society talks about and functions around sex, but how… - Dame Products: KIP Review
We’re back with one of our favorite companies, Dame! This time to review the one and only Kip Vibrator. If you’d rather watch this… - The 9 Best Sex Toys for Penis and Prostate Pleasure
by Rachel Wright & Jennah DuBois Sex toys are not just for vulvas — penises and prostates get love, too. Here are 9… - Maximizing Your Pleasure In & Out of the Bedroom with Somatic Sex Coaching
Okay, I have three questions for you. If you said yes to any of that, believe it or not, you may get a… - A College Student’s Guide to Safe(r) Sex
It is that time of the year again! We’re packing up our minivans, parents are kissing their children farewell, command hooks are flying… - 8 Reasons to Add Masturbation to Your Self-Care Routine
The phrase “self-care routine” is very catchy right now and has been floating around the internet, making Facebook scrollers & Buzzfeed quiz-takers stop… - The 4 Attachment Styles & How To Figure Out Your Attachment Style
Our attachment style can help us better understand why we react (and how our partners react) the way we do in our relationships…. - The Knude Society & A Review of Gwen (Personal Vibrator)
Meet the best-kept secret (hidden all the way in the UK) in the female-founded sex toy industry: Knude Society. (Think what Dame did… - 9 of the Best Sex Toys (& Pleasure Aids) for Vulva Owners
Shopping for sex toys can feel pretty daunting because there are so many options. How the heck do we know what’s good, what’s… - Important Facts About Orgasms That Are All Based In Science
National Orgasm Day celebrates orgasms and pleasure by breaking down the stigmas and taboos surrounding orgasms, addressing issues surrounding the orgasm gap, raising… - Momotaro Apotheca Review: Vulvovaginal Health Done Naturally
Yes, this is a review of the one and only Momotaro Apotheca. Okay, okay, okay. We review a LOT of companies over here,… - How to Embrace Your Sensuality in a World That Tells You Not To
When we think of sensuality, chances are we think of sex: how we feel during sexual experiences or how we want to feel… - Shameless & Sexy Communication About Sex: A How to Guide
By Jennah DuBois When it comes to communication about sex with our partners, sometimes it can feel like speaking a foreign language. But… - Review of Future Method Product Line from Rachel WrightLet’s talk about butts! We all have them, and we all need to clean them. Enter: Future Method. Here is a review of…
- Dame Products: Female-Founded & Advocates of Sex-Positivity
Dame Products is a sex-product company founded by Alex Fine and Janet Leiberman-Lu in 2014 that continuously sets an example for what it… - 5 Relationship Myths Busted (Why You Probably Shouldn’t Learn About Love From Disney Princesses)
by Jennah DuBois Once upon a time, in a land far, far away (but still oh so familiar), we lived in an idealistic… - Your Guide to Ghosting: Why it Happens & How to Recover
By Emerson Karsh-Lombardo Welcome to your guide to ghosting. The other day, I met up with a guy I had matched with on… - Six Ways to Prioritize Yourself with Self-Love
Hot girl summer? How about having a summer of self-love? AND a hot girl summer! You have so much love to give, and… - Chronic Pelvic Pain and Sex: 5 Tips for Acceptance
By Brynna Arens In summer 2020, I was diagnosed with Interstitial Cystitis (IC). This incurable condition directly affects the bladder but can also… - 5 Ways to Calm Post-Pandemic Social AnxietyTrigger Warning: Mentions of 2020 ahead In March of [2020], the world as we knew it changed. What we thought would be a…
- Condoms 101: Why Condoms Get a Bad WrapBy Jennah DuBois When it comes to condoms (& really anything else in the realm of sexual health), we’ve been incredibly under-informed. Condoms,…
- 5 Ways Our Sexual Health and Mental Health Are Related
By Emerson Karsh-Lombardo When you understand how your mental health, relationships, and sexual health intersect, you can create an intentional life that you… - How to End the Sexual Shame Cycle: A New Outlook on Sex Education
By Kelsey Feldman What could these three things possibly have in common? If you guessed that they’re all ways we humans hide our… - LoveHoney Get Closer Review
LoveHoney is a global sexuality brand and pleasure company started in 2002. Neal Slateford and Richard Longhurst founded it to uplift the sexuality… - 3 Things NOT To Do When Opening Up Your Relationship, From a Divorceé
By Sara Cornwall Howdy! How’s it going? What’s that I hear? You wanna open up? You and your spouse/partner are thinking about “opening… - Let’s Marathon: How To Avoid Physical Fatigue During Sex
By Brittany Sue Hines Picture this. There you are, in bed with the human of your dreams. Consent? Granted. Clothes? Removed. Feelings? Hot… - Your Ultimate Guide to Lubes – Personal Lubricants 101Confused about lubricants? Look no further for your ultimate guide to lubes. What is lube? Lube is short for lubricant – and that’s…
- How to Find the Right Sex Toy for You: Vibration Edition
How to find the right sex toy for you? It can be confusing because there are all kinds of ways a sex toy… - Dame Aer Sex Toy Review
Want to watch this Dame Aer Sex Toy Review as a video? Click here. Dame Products is a relatively new and accomplished sex-toy… - 6 Ways To Celebrate a Sex-Positive Women’s History Month
By Emerson Karsh-Lombardo Since 1988, U.S. presidents have issued annual proclamations designating March as Women’s History Month. This month is a time to… - Review of Obii biird – Sex Toy Review
I was lucky enough to receive the Obii biird to review. When I first saw these two toys, I thought, “oh another clit… - Review of Evolved TRIFECTA
The Evolved TRIFECTA from Adam & Eve looks a little intimidating, but it feels like heaven on earth. Yeah, I said it. UPDATE:… - Womanizer DUO Review from Rachel Wright
Let’s be very clear right away that this is a luxury sex toy. Womanizer, a company under the WOW Tech Umbrella (We-Vibe is… - The Best Lubes for Sex: Vaginal, Solo, & Anal Play
When it comes to our sexual health, the education we receive is pretty slim to none. In fact, that’s a massive part of… - V for Vibes VENUS Dual Head Wand – Sex Toy Review from Rachel Wright
Similar to the Sweet Vibes Charmed Wand, the V for Vibes Venus Dual Head Wand is a silicone wand that I prefer to… - Dame Eva II Sex Toy Review from Rachel Wright
Want to watch the Dame Eva II Sex Toy Review by video? Click here. Co-founded by a sexologist (Alexandra Fine) and an engineer… - Crystal Delights Pacik Dilator 3 Set Review
Before the Crystal Delights Pacik Dilator 3 Set, I had never tried dilators before. And you already know, I’m new(er) to glass toys!… - Original Magic Wand Sex Toy Review
Is there anything more classic than a magic wand original? Is it a back massager or a mechanism to induce life-changing orgasms? Or… - 32 Lessons I Learned During My 32nd Year
1) When I prioritize myself, I’m able to give more to the people I love and care about. 2) The only thing I… - Unbound GEM Glass Dildo Review
Glass sex toys really used to freak me out. Yeah, I said it. They did! I think I had an irrational fear that… - OhNut Penetrative Sex Aid – Product Review
“Life’s too short for painful sex. Meet OhNut: a customizable wearable device designed to make sex enjoyable for everyone. Playful. Smart. Doctor approved,”… - Fleshlight Sex Toy Review
Fleshlight has grown significantly since I first learned about them back in 2003. They now have toys for all genders, make Fleshlights modeled…